Sunday, March 27, 2011

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.



I have read n re-read Steve Jobs' commencement speech to the graduating Stanford class of 2005 several times...pretty helpful esp when one is feeling lost or out of sorts...

Really got me thinking when a 15yr old boy told me tt ppl may look at his slacker attitude n lifestyle n think tt he's useless cos they r busy accomplishing stuff n making tons of $ although they r unhappy...but if the world were to end tmr, he'll still be happy...n these ppl would still be unhappy n miserable...
What is it that u want from ur life? We only live once ya o.O
but the same boy had to spoil it all by suggesting that a leechie should buy a iphone so that i can buy the angry birds iphone cover...damn lame =.=" n he tried to annoy me with this silly iapp which can copy n distort my voice into some cartoonish voice...epitome of lame -.-"

Tears rolled down my leechie face as i read the real-life story of how a hungry 9 year old Japanese boy who had lost his family in the recent earthquake/tsunami sacrificed food for others..."Because I see a lot more people hungrier than I am."...well, "A society that can produce a 9-year-old who understands the concept of sacrifice for the greater good must be a great society, a great people." n here in sg, i see ppl bitching n scheming n backstabbing...n we are talking abt grown-ups who are already donkeys years of age when u add up all their years of existence!!! this 9 yr old boy seemed sooooo much noble when compared to these highly educated "ppl"! they r soooooo damn political that it's such a waste of their talents not to be in politics! =.=" i'm really touched by this 9 year old boy's sacrifice...he made me feel so insignificant...n made my misery seemed so insignificant! i believe in retribution...i believe that these devious ppl will get their well-deserved retributions one fine day! i'm sorry...but leechie is feeling emo n miserable these days >.<" i've been brought up not to cry...but i'm only human...sorry that i juz cant control my emotions now...

“I learned the hard way that I cannot always count on others to respect my feelings, even if I respect theirs. Being a good person doesn’t guarantee that others will be good people, too. You only have control over yourself and how you choose to be as a person. As for others, you can only choose to accept them or walk away.”

"Why does it sometimes take a disaster for us to see the goodness in people? We have much to learn from the Japanese. True charisma comes from thinking more about others than ourselves. True charisma = being generous. When was the last time you gave unconditionally to someone?" ~ Eric

"Being happy doesn't mean to be perfect. It means having to see beyond the imperfections."

As shared my leechie idol, ms. Elim Chew:
"If u r honest and frank, people may cheat u, be honest and frank anyway, if u r kind, people may accuse u of selfish, ulterior motives, be kind anyway, if u spend years building, someone could destroy overnight, build anyway, the good u do today, people will often forget tomoro, do good anyway. give the world the best u have, and it may never be enough, give the world the best you've got anyway. you see, in the final analysis , it is between you and and your GOD, it was never between you and them anyway :)" ~ Mother Teresa

"When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn." ~ Harriet B

"Successful People Have Fear

Successful people have doubts and successful people worry. The only difference between those who succeed and those who don’t is that successful people act regardless of the fear. Even those who don’t have integrity or brains but who act anyway are going to find more success than geniuses with integrity who keep it to themselves because they’re too afraid to put themselves out there." ~ Harv

Another quote from Harv:
"We all need to thank our lucky stars for mountains that seem to be in our way. Why, because I’m a glutton for punishment? No, because personally it was the only way for me to find out for myself one of the most important ideas most millionaires share in common — you have to be bigger than any problem you can ever face."

Love this quote from Robert Kiyosaki...juz imagine yourself saying this when ppl ask u why ;p
"Don’t live below your means or forgo your dreams. I’m Japanese, but I don’t look good in a Toyota"
Btw, here's a pic of leechie with Robert Kiyosaki taken a couple of years ago at his seminar here...i'm abit hesitant to put this pic up cos i think i look v.yucky in this pic! >.<" i guess after seeing this pic u will understand why ppl keep commenting that i look different now o.O
Btw, i felt really honored when Robert asked for my name then ;p


"The one spirit that pervades everything in the universe is your own self." ~ Jeff

This aint a political blog...but i came to know that some cabin crew is harbouring thoughts of running for Parliament...sorry but i gotta say tt a leechie was damn damn amused when i saw her postings...well, that certainly made my nite after a tiring week manz...lol...i simply lurve Michael's response to her postings...lol ;p
"Is shocked that a SQ girl with nothing to show for except a great smile and highly energetic thinks it's unprecedented if she is voted into parliament! I think it would be a DISASTER! What is she gonna be? NMP for Changi Airport?!
Btw, if she hails from a reputable JC and University, what is she doing flying for SQ? She should be flying SQ instead! Well, some SQ cabin crews can get quite air headed or perhaps their brain work better at 30,000ft. You should see her post and the comments! It's a classic example of 'living one's dream through others'! I'm very sure it's another classic example of a lack of attention cabin crew blogging. Amazing the support she have! Errr.....you need a major portfolio to run for president. And I don't think they'll make a cabin crew a president. Otherwise whenever she sees a light come on during national day parade, she might just come up to you and ask, "what would you like to drink"?! It'll be a security nightmare!!" ~ Michael
One can almost always expect interesting views from him! Michael Rockz!!! ;p

Netizens were discussing abt a certain miss Tin's cutie pose with a certain kate spade box...the influence of facebook...v.viral ;p when i commented that i should practise my cutie pose with a kate spade box too, harn said that leechie gotta be more atas n pose with a Louis Vuitton box instead ;p amused with harn's suggestion that leechie shld consider running for some position too since a leechie is better qualified...v.amused...lol ;p oh...n perhaps i would need to close down my leechie blog n remove my bitchy n opinionated comments too if i were to do so ya ;p
Michael's response: "Forget the LV! That's so pedestrian! I say go with the Kate Spade or Hermes.
And forget about politics."

Love this quote from Holman ;p
"For a moment, I actually considered changing the world by running for political office, but then I remembered I have a Facebook page."

Michael's joke on a certain miss boomz-to-shingz:
"Once upon a time, Miss Boomz was to be interviewed by a journalist for an article in Sunday Times. So on the day of the interview, Miss Boomz was late for hours. So journalist called Miss Boomz,
Journalist - "Miss Boomz, where are you? It's Saturday and you're late for your interview"
Miss Boomz - "Oh! You mean the interview is today? I thought since it's for Sunday Times, the interview would be on Sunday"! "

"Talking to media is just like in a minefield, you tend to step in the area you have stepped before because that is the only place you know that are mines free." ~ KH Law
perhaps this could be one of the reasons why some guys see the media in a less than positive light? o.O"

"When you live for others' opinions, you are dead. I don't want to live thinking about how I'll be remembered." ~ Carlos Slim Helu
Mr. Slim Rockz!!!

"You have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life." ~ Steve Jobs.

‎"Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it! I say. Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows."
Everyone's final destination in life is death...what's more important is the journey there o.O

‎"I don't do it for money. I've got enough, much more than I'll ever need. I do it to do it. Deals are my art form. Other people paint beautifully on canvas or write wonderful poetry. I like making deals, preferably big deals. That's how I get my kicks." ~ Donald J. Trump

Cool quote from my cousin:
"You know my name, not my story. You've heard what I've done, not what I've been through"

Another cool quote from JS:
"The Power You have for Your Life comes from Your Authenticity."
i'm a leechie...no less ;p

Love this quote from Joey Yap:
"Memories don't find us - We find them. If we wanted, we can be intentional when it comes to memories. We can MAKE them. Best to begin today:-)"

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This is the text of the Commencement address by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered on June 12, 2005.

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That’s it. No big deal. Just three stories.
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The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: “We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?” They said: “Of course.” My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents’ savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn’t see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn’t interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn’t all romantic. I didn’t have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends’ rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn’t know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down – that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple’s current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn’t even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor’s code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you’d have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I’m fine now.

This was the closest I’ve been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960′s, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: “Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.” It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

Thank you all very much.



Quote from Jin Woon:
"人因为 “有” 梦想而伟大 , 应该说人因为 “实现” 梦想而伟大!如您有梦想, 不要只是光想,或遇到挫折,瓶颈时而轻易放弃。。。 相信您自己,坚持您的信念,一步步走向您所要得到的康庄大道!!!"

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

He's Just Not That Into You! >.<"



Came across this article n it got me thinking...why doesnt he call? >.<"
even J who always gives me alot of v.sensible advice tells me -> "If he's interested he'll call."
haiz >.<"

However, i have this fren, W, who used to complain to me that she would get v.disheartened cos she was always the one who had to call the guy that she fancies n she was always the one who asked him to go out on dates...she felt that he might not be that interested in her...so i encouraged her to juz treat him as like a normal fren n juz go out with him as like a normal fren so both him n her wouldn't feel the pressure...she persevered...n i attended their wedding abt 2 years ago...they already had the wedding celebrations in their respective countries (both bride n bridegroom are not locals) so the wedding here in sg was a simple affair...

But i was really touched when her hubby said that she was his soulmate during the wedding...honestly, i gotta admit that i was under the impression that soulmates could be nothing but an urban fallacy n i had almost wanted to give up hope until i heard what he said during the wedding...i know that their real life love story sounds abit too much like a fairytale...but i really really admire my fren's courage to pursue love...to fight for her happiness...i admit that i lack courage in many areas...sometimes i really wish i could be brave like her...to pursue whatever possibilities there may be...sometimes i wonder why we have the courage to pursue alot of goals in life but why dont we have the courage to pursue love??? ♥ let me leave u with one of my fav quotes...
"幸福是靠自己去爭取的~不管是友情或愛情~~錯過了就沒有了..."

Great Quote from Jason:
"如果爱上,就不要轻易放过机会。莽撞,可能使你后悔一阵子;怯懦,却可能使你后悔一辈子。"

Juz saw another quote:
"祝愿所有有情人、学会珍惜。珍惜。那个你看起来很烦的那个人。因为失去了、就不会再有人这么对你了。"

"今天看节目吴淡如说了一句:结婚7年后还很爱对方,那就是真的很爱了。我加上若孩子成群后还是时时想握着对方的手,依偎在一起,那真的也很爱了。" ~ Florence Tan

"一個真正的男人, 不會把女人當作毫無價值的附屬品。" ~ Jeff

So take the following article with a generous pinch of salt n rem tt ‎
"If I want to be loved as I am, then I need to be willing to love others as they are." ~ Louise L. Hay
n "幸福是靠自己去爭取的~不管是友情或愛情~~錯過了就沒有了..." ;p
n "如果爱上,就不要轻易放过机会。莽撞,可能使你后悔一阵子;怯懦,却可能使你后悔一辈子。"

Courage...i need more courage...




(http://www.usatoday.com/life/books/excerpts/2004-09-08-hes-just_x.htm)
Excerpt from 'He's Just Not That Into You'
By Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

Chapter One: he's just not that into you if he's not asking you out
Because if he likes you, trust me, he will ask you out

Many women have said to me, "Greg, men run the world." Wow. That makes us sound pretty capable. So tell me, why would you think we could be incapable of something as simple as picking up the phone and asking you out? You seem to think at times that we're "too shy" or we "just got out of something." Let me remind you: Men find it very satisfying to get what they want. (Particularly after a difficult day of running the world.) If we want you, we will find you. If you don't think you gave him enough time to notice you, take the time it took you to notice him and divide it by half.

Now you begin the life-changing experience of reading our book. We have put the stories we have heard and questions we've been asked in a simple question-and-answer format. If you're lucky, you'll read the following questions and know what they are: Excuses that women have made for their unsatisfying situations. If you're not so lucky, we've also included handy titles to clue you in.

The "Maybe He Doesn't Want to Ruin the Friendship" Excuse

Dear Greg,

I'm so disappointed. I have this friend that I've known platonically for about ten years. He lives in a different city and recently he was in town for work, so we met for dinner. All of a sudden it felt like we were on a date. He was completely flirting with me. He even said to me, as he was checking me out, "So, what, you're working the whole 'model thing' now?" (That's flirting, right?) We both agreed that we should get together again soon. Well, Greg, I'm disappointed because it's been two weeks and he hasn't called me. Can I call him? He might be nervous about turning the friendship into romance. Can't I give him a nudge now? Isn't that what friends are for?

Jodi

Dear Friendly Girl,

Two weeks is two weeks, except when it's ten years and two weeks. That's how long ago he decided whether or not he could date a model or a girl who looks like one. Can you be a pal and give him a nudge? Nudge away, friendster — but watch how fast that nudge doesn't get a return phone call. And if your dinner/date did feel different to him, it's been two weeks and he's had time to think about it and decide he's just not that into you. Here's the truth: Guys don't mind messing up a friendship if it could lead to sex, whether it be a "(expletive) buddy" situation or a meaningful romance. Go find someone that lives in your zip code who will be rocked to the core by your deep conversation and model looks.

I hate to tell you, but that whole "I don't want to ruin the friendship" excuse is a racket. It works so well because it seems so wise. Sex could mess up a friendship. Unfortunately, in the entire history of mankind, that excuse has never ever been used by someone who actually means it. If we're really excited about someone, we can't stop ourselves — we want more. If we're friends with someone and attracted to them, we're going to want to take it further. And please, don't tell me he's just "scared." The only thing he's scared of — and I say this with a lot of love — is how not attracted to you he is.

The "Maybe He's Intimidated by Me" Excuse

Dear Greg,

I have a crush on my gardener. He's been potting the plants on my patio. It was hot, I saw him without his shirt on, he was hot, and now I'm hot for him. I brought out some beers and we talked. I think he wants to ask me out but is afraid, because he is my hired man. In this situation, can't I ask him out?

Cherie

Dear My Secret Garden,

He's capable of asking you out. Haven't you ever seen a porno? Hope he gets there before the pizza guy. But seriously, if he didn't pick up the vibe after the beer garden, it has nothing to do with you being his big boss lady. Time to stop and smell the bad news: He's just not that into you.

Let me say it again, sexual harassment rules and workplace memos notwithstanding, a guy will ask out a woman of higher status if he's into her. He might need a little more encouragement than normal, I'll give you that. You might have to lead Johnny the Office Boy or Phillipe the Exterminator to water, but you better not help him ask you out. Once again, ladies, a wink and a smile will do it.

By the way, why are you dating the exterminator?

Just kidding, he's a good guy.

The "Maybe He Wants to Take It Slow" Excuse

Dear Greg,

There's this guy who calls me all the time. He's recently divorced, and in AA. We got back in touch recently, had lots of phone calls, and then hung out twice in one week and it was real cool. No flirting or making out or anything, but fun. Since then, he calls me all the time but doesn't ever suggest we see each other in person again. It's like he got scared or something. I would understand if because of the divorce/alcoholic/starting-a-whole-new-life stuff he wanted to take things slow. But he still calls me all the time to have long heart-to-heart talks. What the hell should I do with this guy?

Jen

Dear Pillow Talk,

Sadly, not wanting to see you in person is massive as far as dating obstacles go. And as far as the recently divorced/newly sober/starting-a-new-life parts, blah blah blah, I'm getting sleepy, it's hot, I'm going down for a nap. When I wake up from that nap I'll probably thrill to the news that your friend is taking control of his life. You, however, will still not be going on a date, because despite all your excuses for him, he's still not asking you out. Now, if you're a person who enjoys a slightly satisfying phone relationship, talk on! But at this point it seems like he's just not that into you. Be his friend if you're at all interested on that level, but move your romantic inclinations onto a more suitable future husband.

If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He won't keep you guessing, because he'll want to make sure you don't get frustrated and go away.

The "But He Gave Me His Number" Excuse

Dear Greg,

I met a really cute guy at a bar this week. He gave me his number and told me to give him a call sometime. I thought that was kind of cool, that he gave me control of the situation like that. I can call him, right?

Lauren

Dear Control Freak,

Did he give you control, or did he just get you to do the heavy lifting? What he just did was a magic trick: It seems like he gave you control, but really he now gets to decide if he wants to go out with you — or even return your call. Why don't you take Copperfield's number, roll it in a newspaper, pour milk in it, and make it disappear.

"Give me a call." "E-mail me." "Tell Joey we should all hang out sometime." Don't let him trick you into asking him out. When men want you, they do the work. I know it sounds old school, but when men like women, they ask them out.

The "Maybe He Forgot to Remember Me" Excuse

Dear Greg,

Okay, Greg. Listen to this one: I was at a conference for work and met a guy from another branch of my company. We hit it off immediately. He was just about to ask for my number, I swear, when the Big Blackout of 2003 happened. In the mayhem, I didn't get to give him my number. I think the Big Blackout of 2003 is a good enough excuse to call him, don't you think? It's only common courtesy for me to check up on him, right? If I don't call, he's probably going to be all sad thinking that I'm just not that into him.

Judy

Dear Judy Blackout,

The city blacked out. He didn't. You said you work for different branches of the same company. Certainly he wouldn't have to break a sweat to scroll through the company staff roster or interoffice e-mail listing to find you. And should he not be as resourceful as you are...I imagine that he has a mother, sister, or female friend that could show him how, if he was really interested.

P.S.: Shame on you for using an eastern seaboard disaster as an excuse to call a guy up.

Have faith. You made an impression. Leave it at that. If he likes you, he'll still remember you after the tsunami, flood, or Red Sox loss. If he doesn't, he's not worth your time. Know why? You are great. (Now, don't get cocky.)

The "Maybe I Don't Want to Play Games" Excuse

Dear Greg,

This is dumb. I know you're not supposed to call guys, but I call guys all the time because I don't care! I don't want to play games. I do whatever I want! I've called guys tons of times. You're such a square, Greg. Why do you think we can't call guys and ask them out?

Nikki

Dear Nikki,

Because we don't like it. Okay, some guys might like it, but they're just lazy. And who wants to go out with Lazy Guy? It's that simple. I didn't make the rules and I might not even agree with them. Please don't be mad at me, Nikki. I'm not advocating that women go back to the Stone Age. I just think you might want to be realistic in how capable you are of changing the primordial impulses that drive all of human nature.

Or maybe you're the chosen one.

Men, for the most part, like to pursue women. We like not knowing if we can catch you. We feel rewarded when we do. Especially when the chase is a long one. We know there was a sexual revolution. (We loved it.) We know women are capable of running governments, heading multinational corporations, and raising loving children — sometimes all at the same time. That, however, doesn't make men different.

IT'S SO SIMPLE

Imagine right now that I'm leaping up and down and shaking my fist at the sky. I'm on my knees pleading with you. I'm saying this in a loud voice: "Please, if you can trust one thing I say in this book, let it be this: When it comes to men, deal with us as we are, not how you'd like us to be." I know it's an infuriating concept — that men like to chase and you have to let us chase you. I know. It's insulting. It's frustrating. It's unfortunately the truth. My belief is that if you have to be the aggressor, if you have to pursue, if you have to do the asking out, nine times out of ten, he's just not that into you. (And we want you to believe you're one of the nine, ladies!) I can't say it loud enough: You, the superfox reading this book, are worth asking out.

HERE'S WHY THIS ONE IS HARD, by Liz

Well, it's obvious. Are you telling us that we have to just sit around and wait? I don't know about you, but I find that infuriating. I was brought up to believe that hard work and good planning are the keys to making your dreams come true. I spent my life making things happen for myself. I worked hard for my career, and was quite aggressive about it. I called people, made appointments, asked for favors. I took action. But now Greg is telling us that in this situation, we are supposed to do absolutely nothing. The guys get to pick. We're just supposed to put on our little dresses and do our hair and bat our eyes and hope they choose us. Why don't you just tie my corset too tight so I can faint in front of some man who'll scoop me out of the way just before the horse-drawn carriage runs over me? That'll get his attention.

Really, in this day and age, the hardest thing to do for many women, particularly me, is nothing. We like to scheme, make phone calls, have a plan. And I'm talking about more than just making sure our hair doesn't frizz. Most women who date, I would guess, don't have men throwing themselves at them every night of the week. Sometimes there's a long stretch during which nobody's asking us out. So when we see a guy that we feel might be a romantic possibility, it's even harder for us to take a backseat. That opportunity might not come back again for a long time.

But guess what: My way? Has sucked. Hasn't worked at all. I've never had a successful relationship with a guy that I've pursued. I'm sure there are many stories out there to the contrary. But for me, those guys end up getting back together with their ex-girlfriend, needing to take some time for themselves, or going out of town for business. Usually it doesn't even get that far. They usually just don't ever return my phone call. And let me tell you, that didn't make me feel very in control of anything.

Since I've been implementing Greg's handy-dandy "he's just not that into you" philosophy, I've been feeling surprisingly more powerful. Because if the men are asking you out, if the men have to get your attention, then you, in fact, are the one in control. There's no scheming and plotting. And there is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot and beg to get someone to ask us out. We're fantastic.

THIS IS WHAT IT SHOULD LOOK LIKE, by Greg

One night I was drinking in a bar and flirting with the bartender. I asked for her number. She said, "I don't give out my phone number because guys rarely call me when they say they're going to. My name is Lindsey Adams, and if you want to call me, find my phone number." Which I did — the very next day. Do you know how many Lindsey Adams there are in the phone book of a major city? Let's just say I talked to about eight or nine before I found mine.

An actor we work with met a girl while he was making a public appearance on an aircraft carrier. He lost track of her in about ten minutes. And yet, because he was so smitten, he somehow managed to track her down in the army, and they are now married.

GREG, I GET IT! By Leslie, age 29

Greg! I get it. I went to this party and I met this guy. We started talking immediately by ourselves, off in a corner. He asked if I was single and seemed pleased when I said I was. Whenever we split up to talk to other people, or to get drinks or whatever, he always kept his eye on me. It was really cool. I was all excited and fluttery with that "Oh my God, I think I just met someone!" feeling. He didn't ask for my number, but we know lots of people in common, so I thought he was just playing it cool. He never called me! And you know what? Normally I would call our mutual friends and start fishing and trying to figure out what happened and maybe try to find another way to see him again. But instead, I'm just going to move on! Who cares what his deal is. He's not asking me out, so why should I start obsessing over him? I'm just going to go out tonight and try to meet someone else.

IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE GREG

We did an incredibly unscientific poll where we polled twenty of our male friends (ranging from ages twenty-six to forty-five), who are in serious long-term relationships. Not one of their relationships started with the woman asking them out first. One guy even said that if she had, "It would have spoiled all the fun."

What You Should Have Learned in This Chapter

• An excuse is a polite rejection. Men are not afraid of "ruining the friendship."

• Don't get tricked into asking him out. If he likes you, he'll do the asking.

• If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.

• Just because you like to lead doesn't mean he wants to dance. Some traditions are born of nature and last through time for a reason.

• "Hey, let's meet at so-and-so's party/any bar/friend's house" is not a date. Even if you live in New York.

• Men don't forget how much they like you. So put down the phone.

• You are good enough to be asked out.

Our Super-Good Really Helpful Workbook

Hey, what's a self-help tome without a workbook? Our chapters will all be so brave and wise that we want to make sure you retain as much of the brilliance as you can. So for all of you who feel the need to get out of your problems and into your crayon box, have at it.

Love,

Greg and Liz

Remember in grade school how they told you not to write in your textbooks? Screw that! Grab a pen and list five reasons why you think you have every right or good reason to call him.

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Put the book aside and wait an hour. Or at least ten minutes. Then ask yourself: Do I seem pathetic? Do I sound like someone who doesn't trust my own innate hotness? Yes,you do! Now put your dialing finger away, get out of the house, and go find some fun.

P.S.: You just did a workbook exercise about a guy who hasn't even extended to you the energy of a phone call. Why would you want to chase that down?

Text copyright © 2004 by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

Interesting Quotes:

"剩女级别: 25-27岁是初级剩女,还为寻找伴侣而奋斗,故称“剩斗士”。28-30岁为中级剩女,自己的机会已不多,别号“必剩客”。31-35岁为高级剩女,在职场斗争中生存,尊称“斗战剩佛”。35岁往上是特级剩女,尊之为“齐天大剩”。45岁以后是超级剩女,尊称为“剩着为王” 转发" ~ Florence Tan

Monday, March 14, 2011

*** Johnnie Walker Jet Black Private Party at Red Dot Museum ***


Check out the cool drink tt i'm holding...it's the Johnnie Walker Japanese theme cocktail Koibito: Johnnie Walker Black + milk B-)

VIP race party experience at Johnnie Walker Jet Black ♥


Was really excited to be part of the Johnnie Walker Jet Black private by invitation only party at Red Dot Museum! There were 3 themes for the nite: Abu Dhabi, Tokyo and London =) Leechie likes the Abu Dhabi lounge area the most...the decor on the ceiling really made us feel as if we had stepped inside a huge Abu Dhabi tent...v.lovely n cool set-up! ♥ there were comfy sofa sette with nice Johnnie Walker black cushions at this lounge =) The main dance room had a Tokyo theme when we first stepped in...our table was the closest to the stage...so we had a really good view of the Cyberjapan dancers! thought that the Cyberjapan dancers were really good! B-) then the theme transformed to London theme later on in the nite and the London gals performed =)

It was a really cool party with an equally cool crowd! there were 4 types of speciality cocktails being served...leechie likes interesting cocktails n i tried all 4 types n my favs were the Jap (Koibito) and British (Union Black) cocktails ♥ i was really impressed by the good service by the staff...the bar manager even went over to the different bar counters to get the Koibito and Jet Black drinks for us when we were at the lounge area! =) we had so muchie fun that we were the last to leave the party! ♥

Had lotsa fun...but abit amused when a fan was quite surprised when he saw leechie juz now...do u mean that i don't look like me? or were there others who looked more like a leechie? ;p posed for pics with fans...Keep walking =)

More pics are still in fren's camera...stay tuned for more cool pics ya ;p

Leechie posing with the famous black label bottle B-)


Check out the cutie Hello Kitty on the display screen ;p


Leechie in Johnnie Walker colors ;p


Guess the price tag of this bling bling dress that leechie wore to Jet Black party? ;p

That's leechie checking herself out in the mirror inside the ladies ;p

Leechie arriving at the registration counter ;p

The cool screen announcing leechie's arrival at the Jet Black party! B-)

One of the pics taken by Johnnie Walker's photography team as leechie did her arrival strut...i know i look kinda surprised in this pic...cos there were several cameras flashing at a leechie simultaneously n i wasn't too sure which camera to look into @.@"

Check out this cool Johnnie Walker bar! B-)

The CyberJapan dancers were really good!


Update:
OMG! I'm soooooooooooo damn freaked out!!! someone hacked into my email account!!! Gosh...i'm sooooooooooooo damn scared!!! @.@" but why hack my account? i'm only a leechie...they shld hack those of more famous celebrities! o.O"
Guess what? some random guy found a leechie on yahoo...creepy >.<"

Pop by Audrey's place yest for some girly chit-chat after watching Cleo's bachelors finals (the winner was the cutest amongst the lot ;p)...it's so cool to know someone who shares the same enthusiasm for cosmetics, beauty & hair care products n HELLO KITTY! btw, was telling Audrey tt i find it incredible when those beauty bloggers claimed tt they only spent a few hundred bucks on beauty products in a few months...i already spent the same amount on beauty products every month (n those are the off-peak non-sale period...think i spent more than a thousand during those sale periods x.X" gosh...btw, for guys reading this bit, pls rem tt leechie aint high-maintenance...v.important...pls rem this ;p) saw her collection of cutie hello kitty stuff (she gave leechie a pretty hello kitty lip gloss n hello kitty plastic bags...ya, there r pretty hello kitty plastic bags too ;p) btw, her chiwawa really looks kinda oversized ;p my leechie mum shld really check out her shelves n walk-in wardrobe before complaining abt the tons of shoes n beauty products tt a leechie has =.=" she was amused with how my leechie mum called when i'm not back home by midnight x.X" i really envy Audrey for having such a sweet hubby...he really dotes on her!!! i always thought that such sweet guys would already be extinct by now...well, that kinda give me some hope to hopefully find a sweet guy for leechie ♥

Pretty Hello Kitty stuff from Audrey =)


V.touching clip! who would be there for a leechie when i need him the most? o.O it really reminds me of what happened juz now...i had a close shave cos this blur leechie walked right into a glass door! my fren looked at me in horror...n my first question then was: "Am i bleeding?" i really need to thx my lucky stars tt i didnt break anythg cos the v.last time i saw a guy walk right into a glass door...he bled like mad n the glass door was smeared damn badly with his blood n they had to call for ambulance! my leechie mum actually scolded me when i called to thank her juz now...my leechie mushroom nose is 101% real thanks to her scarry stories of how any fako nose n chin will juz drop out when they get knocked into! she shld be thankful tt i didnt call her from the hospital manz =.=" i didnt break anything...no bleeding either...but the nose bridge of my leechie mushroom nose hurts...my nose bridge n lips still feel abit sore ler =.=" maybe i shld be thankful that i have a flat mushroom nose...perhaps that kinda cushion the impact of the knock? o.O" btw, juz in case u might be wondering...leechie wasn't drinking when the incident happened...it's more of a case of blur leechie -.-" n to think tt i almost walked right into a wall the other day manz @.@" further to this, Audrey asked if leechie was looking at cute guys while slamming myself into the glass door n added that it's super not worth it if i did that while looking at some bags...lol ;p basically what happened was -> i turned my head to talk to a fren who was walking behind me n when i turned back, i had already slammed right into the glass door before i knew it...btw, my fren is damn far away from being cute -.-" (although i'm pretty sure he wouldn't agree on this point...sorry, u dont have to agree with me but i think i'm entitled to my own leechie opinion ya ;p)

Ehhh Eno-Oka o.O







Went down to Eno-Oka at Cairnhill area for dinner with my leechie parents...we had shabu-shabu n ebi tempura. Although the decor of the restaurant looks simple, that kinda gives it a cozy feel =)

Both the shabu-shabu n ebi tempura tasted yummy...but somthg happened which left a sour taste in the mouth =.=" when i proceeded to pick up the second piece of ebi from the tray, i saw somthg which didn't look quite right o.O" there was a strand of hair stuck to the flour bits of another piece of ebi! it was pretty clear tt this strand of hair did not belong to any of the diners! -.-" so i showed that to the waitress n she removed that tray before i could snap any shots of that strand of hair lying stuck to the ebi! -.-" although that tray was replaced with another new tray of freshly fried ebi tempura, i feel that better hygienic practices would be preferred! =.="

Shabu-shabu ;p

Check out the steaming shabu-shabu ;p


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Update:

Wonders why some events company wanna organize some "private party" at some new cafe n yet there aint anything muchie going on there? Harn says that she would be damn embarrassed if she were the event organizer! apparently, they were nowhere to be found either o.O" n i wonder why some places like to hire those crappy n boring trainers who like to smoke their way through n cant even speak decent english to conduct courses? =.=" well, there are plenty of courses out there that can help these trainers to present in a more presentable manner! =.=" Cheap doesnt necessarily mean Quality! -.-" it's juz like how i cant understand why some trainer wanna send out some blog summary which was approved by some author n yet is full of grammatical errors!!! almost drove me nuts reading the entire article! -.-"

Btw, the lady at the beauty salon hasnt seen a leechie for abt half a year n complimented tt i look prettier when she saw me yest...shld i feel flattered or tell her that this goes to show that the facials at her beauty salon did nothing to help? ;p

Btw, went for haircut n treatment yest using the voucher that my leechie mum gave me...n the stylist showed me a black face after i pointed out to her that my leechie fringe aint straight...but it's still not straight after she reluctantly trimmed it again n again n despite her borrowing her boss's ultra-long scissors for the trim! >.<" it's not as if i didnt pay her to trim my hair n yet she showed me a black face...btw, saw a cutie stylist there yest...shall opt for him on my next trip ;p but my leechie mum was clearly amused when i recounted the entire episode to her =.=" fb frenz asked me to name this salon...but i dont wish to give them any free publicity -.-"

Pop by "Singapore Designers Give Back" charity event which was organized by Parco & TaFf (Textile & Fashion Federation) n bought some clothes whereby all the proceeds go towards the victims of the recent Japan earthquake/tsunami disaster.

Was watching the Holland vs Hungary euro qualifier footie matchie late nite...realized tt the dutch team still have many cutie players...lol...pardon my bimbotic comments...i used to follow the dutch team but havent been watching too many footie matches recently o.O" odd years r always relatively more boring compared to even years...looking forward to euro 2012...more than a year to go o.O"

Weird that the following actually happened more than once within the space of a day: leechie was standing by the side of the road when someone on a bicycle turned n looked at me...shouldnt he be focusing on the road right in front of him instead? =.=" good thing that the action didnt result in any accident o.O btw, i juz realized that i actually get to sign frenz into a club without even showing my membership card...maybe my leechie face can serve as the membership card eh? lol ;p

"Popularity is a perception. What we truly want are friends who care and love each other." ~ JS
Fame is a double-edged sword...what do u say? cos some guys say they prefer to stay low profile o.O i juz wanna someone cool to hang out with till i drop dead...am i asking for too muchie? =.="

Saw this interesting quote:
"A girl's laughter is much more cheerful than a boy's. But a boy's tear is much more meaningful than a girl's. "
then we shld make a boy cry eh? ;p
"Sometimes you find it hard to tell someone about your feelings, until you realize, that your actions have already spoken."

Interesting Quotes:

"The beauty of humanity lies in honesty. The value of humanity lies in faith.
人性之美莫 過於誠,人性之貴莫過於信。" ~ Jeff

"Can you really explain to a fish what it's like to walk on land? One day on land is worth a thousand years of talking about it, and one day running a business has exactly the same kind of value." ~ Warren Buffett

‎"Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching?" ~ Dennis Mannering

“The four most dangerous words in investing are: It’s different this time.” ~ Sir John Templeton

‎"Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls" ~ Joseph Campbell

‎"Obstacles are like wild animals. They are cowards but they will bluff you if they can. If they see you are afraid of them, they are liable to spring upon you; but if you look them squarely in the eye, they will slink out of sight."

"Wealth is an attitude and perception to life"

"Expectations are created by YOU. If you are upset when your expectations not met, who are YOU upset with?" ~ JS

‎"When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere."

"A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams" ~ John Barrymore

"The path to wealth is the path that serves the most people." ~ Robert Kiyosaki

"When I speak to a man, I want to know about his activities, not what grades he got in school. Actions make the man." ~ Robert Kiyosaki

"Every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward?" ~ Edison

"The food you eat wont make you fat, thinking that food will make you fat -- will make you fat!" ~ Timothy W Go

"Pretty women make us BUY beer. Ugly women make us DRINK beer." ~ some guy

"Guys are like stars; so many to pick from, but only one can make all ur dreams come true! :D"

"The future hasn't happened yet and the past is gone. So I think the only moment we have is right here and now, and I try to make the best of those moments, the moments that I'm in."

‎"Yes, risk taking is inherently failure-prone. Otherwise, it would be called sure-thing-taking."

"Your ability to manage the day-to-day stresses of your life is essential to your happiness and success. Performing at your best requires calmness, clarity, and an ability to maintain a certain amount of objectivity about yourself and your work." ~ Brian Tracy

"Who you want to be is really what makes you who you are now. When you’re striving for something, you’re acting—you’re doing. And what you do makes you more of who you will become later down the line. There is no distinction between the present and the future. It’s always happening now through your values and your actions, from building your sense of character to building a strong financial foundation." ~ Harv

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." ~ Kayla Slater

"If you love life, don't waste time, for time is what life is made up of." ~ Bruce Lee

"The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships" ~ Anthony Robbins

"There are many things in life that will catch your eye. But only a few will catch your heart" ~ Ben Crenshaw

"Fire. Enjoy when you play. Don't blame if you are burnt."

"Do not allow yesterday's success to lull you into today's complacency, for this is the great foundation of failure." ~ Og Mandino

"A bond is not formed by the amount of time two people spend together, but rather by the experiences that are shared together."

"It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what is the most painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let the person know how you feel."

"Letting go isn't the end of the world; it's the beginning of a new life"

"Content is NOT King; Relationships are King"

"From Stephen King: "If you want to be a good writer, you must do two things above all others: read a lot and write a lot. There is no shortcut.". Likewise, if you want to be a good speaker, you must do two things above all others: watch a lot of other people speak and yes, speak a lot." ~ Eric

"Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement."

"Life will always have problems. You can't get rid of all of them. Let's strive then to have better problems instead." ~ Joey Yap

"Stop being POOR = Passing Over Opportunities Repeatedly."

"One half of life is luck; the other half is discipline - and that's the important half, for without discipline you wouldn't know what to do with luck." ~ Carl Zuckmeyer

"Money isn't the most important thing in life, but it's reasonably close to oxygen on the "gotta have it" scale." ~ Zig Ziglar

"Just ask urself what would you do if tomorrow were the last day of your life???"

“Problems cannot be solved by the same level of thinking that created them.” ~ Albert Einstein

"Why do you need to be unhappy?? Only then you will want changes. And with changes, only then there will be improvements." ~ Dave

"The investor's chief problem - and even his worst enemy - is likely to be himself." ~ Benjamin Graham

“Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep.” ~ Scott Adams

"The left brain is physically connected to your heart. The right brain isn't. This is why lawyers and accountants can feel so cold. To be an entrepreneur you must connect to the heart." ~ Robert Kiyosaki

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be" ~ Lao Tzu

"Branding is relevant to all businesses, not because customers are brand conscious but because a brand represent a promise customers can trust in crowded markets" ~ Joshua

"Forgiveness is a gift to myself. I forgive, and I set myself free." ~ Louise L. Hay

"Self-trust is the first secret of success." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

"It's not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential." ~ Bruce Lee

"Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation." ~ Brian Tracy

"Debt makes leverage possible. Good investments average 5-10% profit. Add debt and leverage and profits raise to 30% and more." ~ Robert Kiyosaki

"Talking to media is just like in a minefield, you tend to step in the area you have stepped before because that is the only place you know that are mines free." ~ KH Law

"Life is not about the people
who act true on your face..
Its about the people who
remain true behind your back.."

‎"Someone who thinks the world is always cheating him is right. He is missing that wonderful feeling of trust in someone or something."

"Sometimes you find it hard to tell someone about your feelings, until you realize,that your actions have already spoken."

"人的一生都会面对很多的抉择,从读书到毕业,从立业到成家;我们所做的抉择就决定了我们的人生,结果是好是坏,我们要勇敢接受,不可怨天尤人。" ~ Helena Hee

"要就不做,要就做到最好!"

"说到要作到不要带个面具做人!"

"拿我不當回事的人,我也没必要把你放在眼裡。傷害我的朋友, 给我滾, 滾出我的視線。因為我不喜歡與狗計較, 也不喜歡和畜生打交道。
任何真心话,我都願意用心去聽,對我真心的人,我會雙倍回報,陷害我的人,我也會雙倍奉還,别侮辱我的人格,我也有的脾气。" ~ Jeff

"生为女人有的时候不要太计较,男人都有点粗心大意,忘了一件事,不代表他不爱你,别自己吓自己。"

"期初本想偷你的心来看看就还给你的,但没想到小偷遇上强盗,我的心反而被你抢走,开始默默得爱上你了。(Initially, I thought of stealing your heart to have a little peep before returning it back to you, but I never expect for a thief like me to meet a robber like you, as I realized my heart is being robbed by you when I began to fall in love with you~) ^o^" ~ Mike

"「True love doesn't have a happy ending, because true love never ends. Letting go is one way of saying I love you——真正的愛情不會有一個美好的結尾,因為真愛永遠不會謝幕,放手也是我愛你的一種方式。」
有時候放手,走的更久…" ~ Kevin lao shi

"孤单,
是你心里面没有人··
...寂寞,
是你心里有人而那人却不在你身边··"



Sooooooo cutie!!! leechie wanna buy some angry birds too!!! ♥
Fine...i admit that leechie fav is the red n fat angry bird ;p

Dave's Reddie: Dave asked leechie to print out Reddie's pic so that i can bring it to the stores to compare n to prevent me from buying a fako angry bird...easier option -> leechie will try to kidnap Dave's Reddie if i hav the chance to...will put a masking tape over Reddie mouth so tt he doesnt make any noise ;p
Crapz...guess what? juz realized that birds eat leeches -.-" *leechie goes into hiding* crapz...juz noticed that leechie mum juz put on new Tweety BIRD bedsheet for leechie =.="

soooo cutie ;p


Gosh...such atas branded cakes...lol ;p (pic from Kevin lao shi)
leechie likes the Tiffany blue box cake ;p


Pretty heart-shaped mouse n bluetooth dongle from IT fair ;p


leechie cutie Hello Kitty pouch, tablecloth n headphones ;p


Check out this Hello Kitty mahjong set ;p leechie is thinking that perhaps Audrey can get a cutie hello kitty mahjong set, then leechie can teach her how to play mahjong? ;p


Colorful markers as arranged by leechie ;p


Takashimaya brought in these beautiful Sakuras ♥


Earth hour celebrations at Wisma Atria o.O


Ai mei...


Cutie mew mew begging o.O


Zizou!

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Earth Hour Dining-cum-Networking on 19th March 2011



Dear Friends =)

Thanks for your support for our previous event! Mostly new faces joined us for the first time, including some attractive ladies and eligible bachelors. We are really very honored to receive very positive feedback from a past participant who is a business owner that the participants in our events are of better quality than other Singles events!

Demographics of past participants:
Expats, investment bankers, business owners, traders, bankers, lawyers, doctors, accountants, managers, lecturers and phD & Masters degree holders and other professionals from various industries

Any plans for the upcoming Earth Hour? Come join our Earth Hour dining-cum-networking and spend a special evening with us. You may come alone but you could possibly meet your "Perfect Ten" match =) You wouldn't know what you are missing out on if you are not here to experience it for yourself =)

Please feel free to forward this invite to all your singles friends.

Centrally located? Check.. Cozy restaurant? Check.. Yummy food? Check..
Come and discover this cozy fusion restaurant which is quietly-tucked away amidst the busy city area and which offers just the right ambience for networking and link up with like-minded people. You wouldn't know what you are missing out on if you are not here to experience it for yourself =)

Details for the Earth Hour Dining-cum-Networking event are as follow:
Date/Time: 19th March (Sat) 7.30 to 9.30 pm
Venue: Restaurant only 5 mins walk from Esplanade MRT station (exact meetup location is only revealed to confirmed participants)
Programme:
7:00pm - 9:30pm: Dinner and drinks would be served. Topic discussion and large group rotation to facilitate interaction with many networking opportunities for you to get to know professionals from various industries. If possible, do bring along your name cards to facilitate interaction and for the lucky draw. Those with good ideas on how to save energy will be rewarded with attractive prizes
After 9:30pm: Those who are interested can stay back for further interaction or drinks at a nearby venue. Leechie would be very glad to facilitate this.

Prepayment is required to confirm your registration for logistics reasons.
Note: Prepayment need to be done soonest upon registration. Failure to do so may result in your place being released to the next person on the waiting list.
Registration:
Please email leechietheleech@ gmail.com with the following details:
a) You and your friends' names (if any)
b) You and your friends' contact numbers and email addresses

Note: An acknowledgement email would be sent within 24 hours.

* Confirmed participants will receive an acknowledgement email latest the following day. Further instructions (exact meetup location details) are included in the acknowledgement email.

* Pls note that the above planned programme and f&b serve only as a guide and is subject to changes but we will try to stick to it as far as possible.

* Feel free to invite your frenz to join us and be part of our hip networking scene! ;)

* Pls check out my blog (www.leechietheleech.blogspot.com) for updates on all events =)

Please register early to secure your participation as we received overwhelming response for our previous events and had to reject some applicants on the waiting lists due to the constrain as imposed by the max capacity of the venues. Even the waiting lists were building up. We look forward to hear from you soon! =)

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Testimonials From Past Participants:

“I must say the ppl in your event are of better quality than other Singles events” – R. K., Business Owner

“Please keep up your excellence in maintaining members' interest and support in your dynamic range of singles' social dating activities." - K. C., Associate Manager

“Thanks for arranging such a great evening yesterday, beautiful night with lots of great new friends :)“ – L. S., Technical Director

"Leechie, we would continue our firm support by getting fresher faces to your singles dating scene. You have displayed initiative, intuition, persistence, care, concern, creativity and passion in facilitating and enhancing instant rapport, personality development and healthy communication among local and foreign qualified singles in your centre of influence." - K. C., Associate Manager

"Thanks for arranging for networking event. I have enjoyed myself last evening. You are definitely a good organizer for such events." - B.K., Agency Manager

"Hooray, we are glad to have you indeed as an efficient, effective, meticulous, detailed, expressive and communicative singles social event organiser who got along well with most of us new kids on the block." - K.C., Senior Associate Director

“Thanks for the awesome event.” – G., Banking Executive

"Thanks for organising this wonderful networking event for the singles. I really enjoyed..." - F.S., Accounts Executive

"Leechie, thanks for the great networking event that day." - K.C., Consultant

"Thanks for organizing the great event!" - H. H., Marketing Executive

"You have done a good job and I know it's tough to organize such a big group. Keep it up" - L.L., Pilates Teacher

"Thanks for last night's fun outing..." - R.C., Senior Associate Manager

"Wa really nice place. Hmm...u are really good at finding this kind of nice cozy environment. .. =P" - S.P., Makeup Artist


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Would like to introduce to u The Networking Scene Exclusive Members' Privilege Card with many benefits:
- Priority application for all our networking events (so that u don't have to worry about being placed on the waiting list and missing out on our exciting events again...)
- Welcome voucher of $5 off one networking event
- Exclusive invites to private parties with complimentary freeflow drinks* (terms and conditions apply)
- Exclusive members only events
- 5 % off all networking events
- 20% off one networking event in your birthday month

Cheers,
leechie

tono leechie
www.leechietheleech.blogspot.com
Be part of our hip networking scene! ;)

Update:
New frenz have signed up for this event...registration is still open...so take action fast n don't miss out on this good opportunity to get to know more quality Singles like yourself =)

Sunday, March 6, 2011

How Do You Know When A Man Is Serious About You??



Saw this v.interesting article on fb...no offence to any gentlemen out there...this is juz for sharing ya ;p

"With sincerity in his voice, he tells you softly and gently that he loves you. He continues by saying you mean the world to him. He may even tell you that not a day goes by that he isn't thinking about you. It seems that everything you are interested in... HE'S interested in. He's always ready to take you somewhere exciting... the nearest theme park, the theater, boating, rock concert, opera, nightclubs. His money is easily spent on you... rings and other jewelry, gifts, flowers, cards.

Oooops! I misunderstood the question... forget everything I wrote above!

You will never know the truth if a man is serious about you from his mouth. Also you will never know the truth from his wallet. And you will never know the truth by how 'nice' he is to you while you are dating.

WARNING1: THE WRITING BELOW MAY BE JUST THE RANTING OF A BITTER OLD MAN.

The world is made up of all types of people, but in that large eclectic group there are some categories we can discern. For men, we have the gay, the bisexual, and the straight (heterosexual) categories. Then we have the introvert, the extrovert, and the ambivert (what we like to call a middle-of-the-road-o-vert). Then there are the baby-makers, the wannabe baby-makers, and the 'probably-will-never-make-a-baby...ers'.

Narrowing these down, let's discuss the types of men who will be approaching you (and a little bit about how you will feel about them).

First thing to understand is that God programmed all men to naturally have a drive to procreate to populate the Earth. One of the oldest complaints women have is, "Is that all you ever think about?!?". And happily for the sake of the continuation of the human race, the answer for many men is, "Yes... that, and grown-up toys like fast cars, boats, etc."

Again... men are after one thing and one thing only... sex. Everything else we do is just to fill the time in between those 'procreative encounters of the third kind'. Men don't need women for anything else. Friends? Go take a hike! We got plenty of other men to be friends with... and men friends can shoot hoops with you, help rebuild an engine, discuss the destructive firepower of various firearms, and help till the garden. And none of our men friends will ever demand a single flower from us, will never require 'snuggle-time' with us, will never require us to buy them an expensive dinner out. As a matter of fact, if we started buying gifts for our men friends to prove to them how much we care about them, we'd probably get beat up by those same friends. At the very least, we'd be ostracized very quickly.

Keep that contrast in mind to help understand men's motivations.

No man buys flowers for a woman because he wants to. He buys the flowers because it keeps you smiling and happy. And it is easier to get you naked if you are happy.

No man buys jewelry or other trinkets and baubles for a woman because he wants to. He buys them because he knows it will keep you smiling and happy. And it is easier to get you naked if you are happy.

No man buys an expensive meal at a restaurant for a woman because he wants to. But he will take you out, and spend tons of money on a meal because he knows it will keep you smiling and happy. And it is easier to get you naked if you are happy.

Men are programmed to get the honey from the honey pot. Some have a stronger programming than others but we all have it. It's guaranteed that within 90 seconds after climax (right when you want to do the snuggling) we are wondering if we left that 1/4 inch wrench on the workbench or did we put it back in the toolbox? Or some similar thought that has little to do with what you and he had just 'shared'.

Now, to avoid making it sound like all is lost -- that no man will ever truly be 'serious' about you, here is additional insight.

Men don't need women for "friends"... but you can become a friend.

Although we have a primal urge to sow the oats anywhere and everywhere, many men do have a concept of honor, integrity, and loyalty. It is that which moderates our primal urge to procreate.

So... how can you tell if a man is really serious about you? Here's how...

1. Understand that initially a man flirting with you is serious about getting you naked (blame that on God, not the man. But really that's how our human race is still here! So it is not really a blame, but instead it is just the way it is).

2. Ask who was his girlfriend last week, or last month, or last year. No matter what a man's mouth is saying, if he was with someone else last week or last month, you are just the next notch on his headboard. Again... if he was with someone else last week or last month, YOU are just the next NOTCH on his HEADBOARD.

3. If he seems like a great catch, handsome and a good conversationalist, why is he single? The old folks had a lament that "All the good ones are married!" And that lament is true... or almost true. Most of the good ones are married or involved with someone else... because THEY ARE the good ones. If he is handsome and a smooth talker, but hasn't been married or in a long term relationship for a long time it is usually because he is not serious (remember, that was your question).

4. If the words,

"My wife doesn't understand me..", or the words,

"My girlfriend doesn't understand me...", or the words,

"My wife is a bitch!", or the words,

"My girlfriend is a Bitch!"

ever come out of his mouth while he is sweet-talking you, RUN! You are being played BIG TIME. Honor, loyalty, honor, loyalty. Big items for an upright man. A sense of honor and a sense of loyalty control the primal urges of a decent man. What he is saying now about her, he'll be saying three months from now about YOU, to his next 'notch' target.

Now, about a man's words. The old folks had a saying that actions speak louder than words.

The next time he brings you flowers, say to him, "Honey (or whatever his name is), I really like the flowers but if you really care about me would you volunteer some hours at the local homeless shelter in lieu of flowers to me?

The next time he wants to take you out to an expensive dinner, say to him, "Honey (or whatever his name is), I really appreciate the offer to go to dinner, but the local playground has been needing new playground equipment for years. If you really care about me, would you take that 'dinner' money and help me start a fundraiser to raise the money for new equipment? We can work on it together."

The next time he wants to buy some jewelry for you, say, " Honey (or whatever his name is) I really appreciate your desire to adorn me in pretty things, but if you really care about me let's take that money and go buy kids' toys and then donate them to the Marine Corps Toys For Tots program. We can do that together.

The next time he comes over and just wants to "hang out" with you, say, "Honey (or whatever his name is) I really appreciate that you want to spend some time with me. But let's not just sit around at my house. Old widow Jones who lives across the street is too old to mow her lawn and she's been paying Bob to mow it every week. But she is only getting Social Security and she doesn't really have that money to spare. Instead of us sitting around my house, let's grab a mower and go mow widow Jones's lawn for her-- free of charge. We can do that together.

I could go on and on with more examples... think some up yourself.

In other words, make him do something for somebody else -- to demonstrate his true seriousness about you. Most 'players' don't have the time for "do-gooder" shenanigans and they will move on to an easier 'notch' target. After all, it is much easier to just grab some paper from your wallet and trade it to some guy for some flowers that you had no part in tending, watering, or fertilizing and carry them over to some chick's house, and hand them to her with a big smile on your face as if you've really done something and sweet talk her for the rest of the night on her couch until she finally gives in and opens the honey pot.

And finally, again, you will never know the truth if a man is serious about you from his mouth. Here are some comparative examples of what someone whom is "serious" would say juxtaposed with what a non-serious "Player" would say.

SERIOUS: "Honey I love you. You mean the world to me. I can't stop thinking about you!"

PLAYER: "Honey I love you. You mean the world to me. I can't stop thinking about you!"

SERIOUS: "I want to spend the rest of my life with you!"

PLAYER: "I want to spend the rest of my life with you!"

Can you tell the difference? No? That's what I mean... you will never know the truth if a man is serious about you from his mouth."

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Update:

Attended a special International Women's Day seminar by a few women entrepreneurs...noticed tt there is something common amongst these ladies...they are usually a bit different...non-conformist...to quote one of the speakers -> "immune to norms"...cool manz B-)

I posted a question on fb asking frenz' opinions on what it means when a guy compliments that u r pretty...juz look at the following responses from Eugene -.-"
" ‎1. He thinks you're pretty and he wanna have sex with you;
‎2. He thinks you're not so pretty but he wanna have sex with you;
‎3. He's being polite"
WTH??? but still surprised that such an innocent question led to so many varied responses from the guys o.O but i like the following reply from Wilson:
"as long as you think u are pretty, who cares bout what others think of you....... Self confidence is the most beautiful thing on earth......"
"有自信的人最美,但过于自信美中不足了。" ~ Wilson

"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around." ~ Leo Buscaglia

Quote from Kevin lao shi:
"分享香奈兒女士曾說過的一句話:「Nature gives you the face you have at twenty; it is up to you to merit the face you have at fifty。 20 歲時的容貌是天生的,50 歲時的容貌取決於妳自己。」懂得疼愛自己的自信女人,無論何時都是最有魅力的!"
but i'm still worried how i'll look when i grow up o.O

Here's a joke sent from Jeff...enjoy ya ;p

"Honorable MEN

Must Read for Every Man and of course Woman (to understand man)

If a female is reading this article then just realize the value of a man; and if its a male then feel proud of after reading it!

'One day, while a woodcutter was cutting a branch of a tree above a river, his axe fell into the river. When he cried out, the Lord appeared and asked, 'Why are you crying?'
The woodcutter replied that his axe has fallen into water, and he needed the axe to make his living.
The Lord went down into the water and reappeared with a golden axe. 'Is this your axe?' the Lord asked.
The woodcutter replied, 'No.'
The Lord again went down and came up with a silver Axe. 'Is this your axe?' the Lord asked.
Again, the woodcutter replied, 'No.'
The Lord went down again and came up with an iron Axe. 'Is this your axe?' the Lord asked.
The woodcutter replied, 'Yes.'
The Lord was pleased with the man's honesty and gave him all three axes to keep, and the woodcutter went home happy.
Some time later the woodcutter was walking with his wife along the riverbank, and his wife fell into the river. When he cried out, the Lord again appeared and asked him, 'Why are you crying?'
'Oh Lord, my wife has fallen into the water!'
The Lord went down into the water and came up with ANGELINA JOLIE 'Is this your wife?' the Lord asked.
'Yes,' cried the woodcutter.
The Lord was furious. 'You lied! That is an untruth!'
The woodcutter replied, 'Oh, forgive me, my Lord. It is a misunderstanding. You see, if I had said 'no' to ANGELINA JOLIE , You would have come up with CAMERON DIAZ . Then if I said 'no' to her, you would have come up with my wife . Had I then said 'yes,' you would have given me all three. Lord, I am a poor man, and am not able to take care
of all three wives, so THAT'S why I said yes to ANGELINA JOLIE .'
The moral of this story is: Whenever a man lies, it is for a good and honorable reason, and for the benefit of others.

That's our story, and we're sticking to it! - 'WE ARE HONOURABLE MEN!!!!!!"

Saw this bag at a shop here...lol ;p


This is leechie fav outfit at Bazaar mag's exhibition at Ion...i have a few jackets of similar style =)